Spot these tips are from Herbert Gordon, It’s about how to recover from your down-state, it’s a good idea to read and understand these tips, since we never know when we’re going to need it.

“Identify what you can control and what you can’t”

Now I want you to make two list of things or inventory about the things that you can control, and what you can NOT control, this “things/inventory” is anything that supposed or able to help you to achieve your goals.

You should be aware by now that most of “cause” is controllable, and most of result are uncontrollable. For example, you can train as hard as you can on to be the best at sport you liked, or you are able to do a very good marketing projection on the future.

These are all in your control, you take the wheels on this.But to be the champion on a tournament of the sport that you liked, or to achieve the selling just like what you have projected would be out of your control. The point is you may regret on the thing that fail while you can still control it, and on the contrary, you should let it go when it happen on the uncontrollable part.
Do this listing objectively and don’t get caught in a ”blaming game”.

“From Bitter to Better”

If you are like most of the people, then you should know the best critics for yourself is the one that come from yourself. Your own mind and words often influence your feeling, both negative mind and words will worsened your feeling when you’re down. And so on.Words like:

”I can never get things done”

”I am really a fool”

”Oh God, how could I be so stupid”

You feel bad about feel bad. Forget about the things that you can’t control, And if you can find things that you you can control, asses your mind and feeling right away.

”Well it’s easier to said then done, I’m the one who experience it, not you!”

Maybe you right, and the only reason you can’t change that expression with something more positive, is because you DIDN’T want to change it. From now on try to use positive words, It will help you to stand up again when you’re down.

For example:

”Oh God, how could I be so stupid”

erase and change it with:

”I know it’s a mistake and I’ve been wrong, and now I know what’s best, so I can do it better”

What other think about you doesn’t have to be your reality
What you are now is different from you in the past, what you need to tell yourself is

”some will, some won’t, so what, next..”.

”Several opportunity would open up for me, some maybe not, so what, whats next..”

Just keep on moving, because.. “Failure is not permanent, unless you quit”

And here’s a bad news: Success is also not permanent, after you reach it, you must hold it. But the good news is so does failure, it wont be permanent unless you decided to quit.

Ok, let’s just stop for a few minute to reevaluate. Used the principles in this article. And focus on the chance and opportunity that has alined up ahead of you.

“New Chance would heal old wound”

Someone has been hurt.
And so he sits alone on the corner, and start to feels his painnot long after that, he start to lick his wound Hoping it to heal soon and He kept doing it hopefully under the shadow of his pain.
After sometime passed, someone came and open the doorBright light came trough on his wound.
The person who open the door said, come with me and playLet’s meet someone, and have fun.
It’s just like that, and the fun will begin again.

The exact thing work for your failure, dont just sit silently and licking your wound, look around you for ne chance and opportunity.

So what about it, would you just stay there in the dark, wet and dump place down there?
Or you would reach my hand, arise together to grab new chances.